It finally dawned on me that I will be 40 years old in October. This realisation came about after someone asked if I envisage myself growing old alone, this made me reflect back on my life. After two marriages and divorces, I realised that relationships are not for me, why does this shock so many people? I am a capable woman, I am able to support myself and my three children, provide them with food, a roof and most importantly love, respect and acceptance, so why do I need a man?
‘Because you will be lonely once the children leave home’ came the reply. This made me think, so okay, I may be alone but would that mean that I had to be lonely? I have many online friends, this site and a houseful of books and DVD’s to keep me occupied. Hmmm, sad and alone then, but not necessarily lonely!
I am going to attempt to combat some of these questions but please be aware that this is only my take on the subject, I am not saying that other opinions are not valid because of course they are but what I write here is just the way that I currently perceive this subject matter. I would love to hear your opinions on the subject too so feel free to write a comment or drop me a line at firstname.lastname@example.org if you want to discuss this subject matter. For now, I will continue with my thoughts.
I then got to thinking that so many people who are surrounded with friends, family and colleagues appear sombre and sad. We often hear the expression of someone being lonely when surrounded by people and it makes me wonder what makes people lonely. Some people are more than happy to be alone without feeling lonely, whereas others are alone by no fault of their own yet no matter how hard they try to interact with others whether online or face to face, they are (or maybe just feel) ignored and invisible which in turn makes them feel lonely. (more…)